One day you wake up and for some reason you are excited about life and just can’t stop smiling, you look in the mirror and say to yourself, “hey beautiful/handsome” everything just looks so good and everyone just seem so friendly. Wow what a wonderful world.
Another day you wake up and everything looks grey, it looks like rain. You look in the mirror and say “oh is that! Me?” and nothing seems to be going right, oh and the people, the people they are so miserable and unkind. What is wrong with the world?
The world that appears to have two sides is the same world. This world is a reflection of you. When we hate ourselves and everything else and when we love ourselves and everything else.
How we see ourselves will determine, how we will behave, how we think and feel about ourselves and the actions that we take will stem from the way that we see ourselves, our, self-image.
Our self-image is the picture that we have of ourselves and this is developed from our successes, failures, and experiences. The way that we think about ourselves and the reactions of other people towards us, when we make this our framework for our self-image and start to believe this to be true, this very thought will determine how much you like the world that you live and how much you will accomplish in your life.
Let’s say that you believe that you are bad at something. (You can fill in the something). So you say to yourself I am bad at that, then you tell your friends that you are bad at that, you also tell anyone else that will listen that you are bad at that. The more you say that you are bad at that something the more you believe that you are.
The more you believe that you are, the more hopeless you feel about yourself and the more the hopeless you feel then those feelings becomes embedded within your self-image.
This can be easily fixed and the improvement on your self-image will be enormous. All you have to start doing is change the way in which to speak about yourself, to yourself and to others.
Change from thinking something bad about yourself to thinking good about yourself, see your strengths and focus on them. Remember you can change anything about yourself and your self-image will change also.
Say you think that you are the sort of person that will never be financial rich, then, guess what? You will be broke for as long as you think this of yourself. So change that stinking thinking and start to say to yourself that you are a financial winner and you will be prosperous.
Our self-mage is like a temperature gage and we decide if we are going to be happy or sad. We decide our own worth.
At this point I would like to mention that loving ourselves is not the same as being egotistical, just so that there is no confusion.
People that have big egos tend to want to be the centre of attention and crave to be notice and are normally the loudest one in the room, and are only concerned with themselves without much care for anyone else.
The need to let everyone know how important they are, this could be because they are still trying to convince themselves of their worth.
People that have a healthy self-love are proud of their achievements without the need to let everyone around them know it. And can accept their shortcoming whilst working on improving themselves. Having a healthy self-love means that you can do certain things without having to justify yourself to anyone. You can treat yourself at any time and feel comfortable doing what will add quality to your life.
You will appreciate yourself and your self-worth and it is OK to accept compliments when we get them, and if you find yourself lost for words when you do get a compliment, just say “thank you”. It is better to say “thank you” than reply with some sort of reason why you do not deserve the compliment because in actual fact you do deserve the compliment that is why it was give to you in the first place.
Remember that a compliment is a gift and the person giving the compliment, as gone out of their way to give it, and like a gift, if you give it back by replying with some sort of reason why you did not deserve it. Well that is simply rude, and would be like saying “I don’t want the gift that you have obviously gone out of your way to give me”. Just say “thank you”.
When you do start to get compliments, think of it this way, this is a reflection that what you are doing to improve your self-image is working.